THINGS WE DONT TALK ABOUT.

How did we get here, at a point when communication between one another is done via social media and face to face communication has been replaced with movie time and gossiping about other people's life.

We now make friends online and unfriend them online as easy as blinking the eye - then the few that we keep offline, knows a bit of our sincerity as we continue to fake it while living an offline mode of life.

Everybody is guilty of  gossiping but not everyone engages in it very often.
So the question then becomes what is it that we talk about and what are the things we don't talk about.

Take for instance, today most of us will engage in a lot of conservation about the economy, about our coworker, about our neighbor, and probably about a trending celebrity topic  - Amebo, when your sibling is in need of  someone to talk some senses into him/her.

We've become allergic to talking about problems that we can see until it gets out of control. Sometimes some of us just look the other way because they don't want to be seen as the devil or someone that complains a lot - and we wonder why homes are breaking up, why husband and wife becomes cat and dog all of a sudden.

We don't complement each other enough and so envy and jealousy builds up.

We forget to celebrate one another in their little achievement but always ready to point out what we've failed to do.

We replaced love with lobby so we can always be in control without any feedback mechanism.

How can you be living with someone for years and you still don't know how to tell them how you feel about their character - it doesn't make you tolerant and accommodating, it makes you a pretender. The day your "accommodating spirit will be set ablaze might just be on the day a very small matter arises".

Communication is key for progress and sustainability. We just have to make it about things that count.

All in the name of culture and religious frivolities,  a lot of parents don't talk to their children about sex education nor will they even allow them to have an opposite sex for a friend and bring them over to dinner once in awhile.

It is abnormal that as a mother you can't talk to your daughter about menstrual cycle and how beautify it is for a girl to have one.

There is need to talk about body odour and not just talking about it but giving the person the best way to be free from such and why it is important to be smelling nice and fresh before people - not that you know that your friend has body odour and when he isn't there you talk about it and how disgusting and shameful it is to walk with him, why are you complaining when you've done nothing about it.

With the high level of rape in the country, I had to talk to my student, especially most of them that wear short skirt at the night probably going for an errand - because if care is not taken they might be inviting  unnecessary attention to themselves without even knowing it.

So go ahead and talk about how you feel, you might be misunderstood at first but if your choice of words are well constructed and carefully considered - you will be helping someone come out of a habit.